Gerald Dennis Fabre

May 31, 1952 ~ November 3, 2021 (age 69)


Gerald Dennis Fabre, a lifelong resident of New Orleans, affectionately known as “Jerry”, “Denny”, “Papa” and “Bubba”, was surrounded by his family when he passed away at his home on November 3, 2021 following a very shocking and quick diagnosis of metastatic pancreatic cancer. He was 69.
He was a beloved husband, dad, brother, grandfather, nephew, cousin, colleague, and friend. Jerry is preceded in death by his parents, Geraldine Tucker Fabre and Anthony Henry Fabre, and his little sister, Kathleen Held Fabre. He is survived by his three brothers, Robert, Kevin, and Jack, a devoted husband, Steve Paster of 22 years, his five children, Ashley Elizabeth Larson (Scott), Adam Charles Fabre (Nicole), Michael Ryan Fabre (Catherine), Ann Adele Evans (John), and Gregory Paul Fabre (Meghann); He also leaves behind ten grandchildren that he truly adored: Samuel, Andrew, and Benjamin Larson; Sharla and Aaron Fabre; Jack, Elizabeth, and Mae Evans; Millie and Rosemary Fabre.
Jerry graduated from Chalmette High in 1970, and then from the University of Lafayette. He served as an Airforce officer while pursuing his MS in Business from the University of Utah in 1977; he then spent most of his career supporting NASA’s space shuttle program, initially at Stennis Space Center and finally retiring in 2010 from the Senior Management Team at Lockheed Martin where he served in a variety of high level human resource leadership and organizational development roles; Jerry was also Adjunct Professor at Tulane University from 1998-2006 and taught a variety of night courses on HR management and business administration. In the last few years of “retirement” he found great joy in working alongside his sons, Adam and Michael purchasing, renovating and selling houses in his treasured New Orleans area.
Jerry was married to his high school sweetheart, Libby Ann Schayot for 20 years. Following many happy years of marriage and much ongoing discernment, he came to understand that he was a gay man. They divorced in 1992, proceeding to rebuild their individual lives while demonstrating their shared commitment to love and nurture their children.
Jerry met the second love of his life and his soul mate, Steve Paster, while celebrating the new millennium on New Year’s Eve 1999. Steve, a medical and pharmaceutical sales recruiter and fortunate to be able to work from anywhere, packed up his things in Los Angeles and moved to New Orleans to share in his “Bubba’s” life with 5 loud and always present children. In the face of cultural change and volatile political issues at the time, Jerry and Steve “the Bubba’s”, took a stand against bigotry in 2008 by being officially married in Norwich Connecticut, Steve’s hometown, and one of only a handful of states where gay marriage was legalized at the time. Jerry was always proud of their courageous act and wanted his family to always remember this momentous event.
Jerry was an amazing dad to his five children. He always put them first, ahead of everything else in his life. He never pressured any of his kids, but always wanted the best for them. He was not only a professional coach but a personal coach, always looking to put those around him in a better place. He was never quick to react or comment; instead, he would focus his entire time thinking of the best path forward and how to convey it to get the best possible outcome.
He was always up for an adventure. The kids have amazing memories of canoeing, going to the zoo, the Dome to root on his beloved Saints, ski trips, the trip to San Diego, the many New York trips (sorry, not sorry about the bill at Tavern on the Green), and definitely the beach trips - the many incredible beach trips around the world! We always had the best of times together, and if nothing else, there were certainly amazing stories to remember on these trips.
Jerry especially loved his grandkids and spent hours babysitting (although the last sleep-over was reportedly the last one for a while), picking up from car-pool, sharing a meal, or watching the family play in the pool.
Jerry and Steve did everything together, whether it was going out with friends on Friday/Saturday nights, hanging out with the kids, traveling the world, watching four- yes four different sports programs with the boys on different TVs at the house, doing crossword puzzles at the kitchen table, or throwing the best Christmas parties. They were inseparable.
Jerry’s motto was “come BIG or stay at home”. He worked out with weights 6 days a week and was an avid bodybuilder with a powerful body and an even more powerful mind. He was revered by all who knew him and his legacy will live forever!
The family would like to thank his private physician, Dr. David Myers as well as Dr. William “Austin” West and his team at Ochsner, as well as Joia, Michel, and Shelby of Passages Hospice who guided us and surrounded us with gentle support.
A celebration of Jerry’s life will take place at Jacob Schoen & Son Funeral Home at 3827 Canal Street New Orleans, on Monday November 8th at 11am with visitation beginning at 10am; burial will follow at Lake Lawn Cemetery. Refreshments will then be served at the Fabre-Paster home. In lieu of flowers, please donate whatever you can to the National Pancreas Foundation ( where all donations go toward pancreatic cancer research.


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November 8, 2021

10:00 AM to 11:00 AM
Jacob Schoen & Son Funeral Home
3827 Canal St.
New Orleans, LA 70119

November 8, 2021

11:00 AM
Jacob Schoen & Son Funeral Home
3827 Canal St.
New Orleans, LA 70119


Lake Lawn Park Cemetery
5454 Pontchartrain Blvd.
New Orleans, LA 70124

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